एक स्वंयवर ऐषा भी

बचपन की कहानियों में पढ़ा था की पहले राजा लोग अपनी बेटी की शादी स्वंयवर द्वारा करते थे.इसमें राजकुमारी माला लेकर आती थी और जिसे पसंद करती थी उसके गले में माला डालदेती थी.समय बदला फिर सुना लोग टीवी पर स्वंयवर करने लगे.राखी सावंत और राहुल महाजन तो याद हैं न सबको। आब आज एक नयी चीज सुनी.गुजरात में पाटन सहर में एक संस्था ने स्वंयवर कराया ...... अब सवाल ये उठता है की तो इसमें नया क्या है?
हाँ जी तो जवाब है की इस स्वंयवर में सब कुछ अलग था.दुल्हन भानुमती व्यास थी ५५ साल की विधवा और दो बार शादी सुदा. दोसाल पहले अपने दुसरे पति के स्वर्गवास के बाद ओल्ड होम में रह रही थी.दिन था रविवार २२ अगस्त .सुबह से ही स्वंयवर में भाग लेने वालो की भीड़ लग रही थी.गुजरात के बहुत सारे जगहों से लोग आये थे इस स्वयंवर में भाग लेने के लिए.कोई उन्हें फूल दे रहा था या कोई उनसे बड़े बड़े वादे कर रहा था.शाम होने तक उस समय रोमांच काफी बढ़ गया , जब सारे प्रतिद्वंदियों में से तीन लोग चुनकर आये.आब भानु जी को माला लेकर जाना था और किसी एक के गले में डालना था.पर मुस्किल यहीं शुरु हुई क्योंकि तीन बार माला लेकर जाने के बाद भी भानु जी निर्णय नहीं ले पायीं की किसे वोह अपना जीवन साथी चुने .फिर उनकी मदद के लिए जनता जनार्दन से विनती की गयी।जनता ने रावल जी का साथ दिया और इस तरह से ये विवाह संपूर्ण हुआ। है न अलग सा स्वयंवर ।
इसलिये कहते हैं "यह तो पब्लिक है, ये सब जानती है "

जय हो जनता जनार्दन की.

A good friend

Who is a friend? For some it is their spouse or their children ,neighbor , class mate.The word friend does not always mean Boyfriend or Girl friend.This question always haunted not only to me but may be many others and special if you are a person who does not trust any one so easily.There are many meaning of this word explained in many ways.For many "A Friend is the one with whom you can hang on for hours without feeling bored." For some" A friend is the one who helps us physically,emotionally and sometimes financially when we are in great need."
For few "A friend is the one who saves them from any trouble by even lying for them."
Today I read a new definition of friend.I instantly liked it and so decided to pick up my writing blogs after almost two years.It is

'Good friends are like stars..... ......You don't always see them, but you know they are always there.'

We all have such friends some where in our heart.We know they are there and that is enough for us.

Now ,Now,Now

Today read a poem in the paper and liked it very much.In fact it is one of the quickest way to live with happiness.It goes like this...
If you have a kind word to say,say it now,
If you have something to give,give it now,
If you can make someone glad or another less sad
Do it now,Do it now...Do it now
If you have trust to bestow,show it now,
If you have friendship to give,give it now,
If there is painyou can ease or someone you can please,
Do it now...Do it now,....Do it now
Such simple lines but such great thoughts are expressed by this poem.If all of us can follow these simple rules than world will really become a better place to live for everyone.We spend our whole life thinking to do good things later but we are not aware that time is running out and may be that that later might turn out to be "Never".

The Real Meaning Of Ganesha Image

Today in Times of India I read an interesting article in the "speaking tree" Column and was overwhelmed by the knowledge it gave to me .I thank the writer Kishore Asthana for giving us,a wide knowledge about Lord Ganesha's Image.
Before going into details the first thing we should know is that Lord Ganesha not only symbolizes the wisdom but also power to ward off any problems from our Life In the following points ,we will now find out the meaning of every part of his image and how they are related to us ........
1. The very first thing we see in Lord Ganesha is his trunk. An elephant has the ability to pick a tree as well as a needle from his trunk. Similarly Ganesha's trunk also symbolizes that the wise person has both immense strength and fine discriminatory power.
2.The next thing we see are the big ears of Ganesha. It symbolizes that a wise person hears all .
3.Lord Ganesha has four hands and each of his hands symbolizes a great meaning.
In one hand he holds a Lotus which is the symbol of enlightenment.
In other hand he holds a hatchet which symbolizes that when enlightenment comes all the past deeds whether good or bad ,of our old karma get cut.
In the third hand he holds Laddus.These Laddus symbolizes the rewards of a wise life .Here a very interesting point has been raised by the writer and that is that Ganesha has never been shown eating Laddus.It says that a wise man never gets attached to the rewards of his deeds.
The fourth hands is shown blessing to every one and so wise men ask the best for everyone.
4.Ganesha has always been shown with one tusk only while the other one is broken.The single tusk symbolizes that we should see the world as one and ourselves as an integral part of the world.
5.Ganesha is shown sitting with one foot on the ground and the other resting on his knee above the ground.It means that though wise man is a part of this earth,yet he keeps away himself from this earth.
6.Lord Ganesha is shown sitting on the rat.This rat is a symbol of our senses,which are never satisfied.As a rat never gets satisfied and keeps on nibbling everything,similarly our senses always crave for new things .As Ganesha rides on a rat to control it, similarly wise man also rides on his senses to keep them under his control.
7.Quite often Lord Ganesha is shown seated in front of tray of sweets .In these images the rat is shown sitting in front of Ganesha ,looking up to him.Similarly though the rewards of wise man may be in front of him ,his senses should be always under his control.
8. Ganesha is the son of Lord Shiva and Goddess Parvati who are supposed to be the Lord governing the universe and the Earth Mother.This symbolizes the spirit and body of a wise man.
9. Ganesha has the face of elephant,which focuses on the dignity of an elephant .Similarly wise man always has a dignity in his life.
10.And Finally when we chant "Om Ganeshaya Namah"before starting anything we tell ourselves that whatever we do let our wisdom take over us.
Thus in a nutshell Lord Ganesha the symbol of wisdom in our life is a part of ourselves only.It is up to us to control our senses and let our wisdom take over us.

My question list........

Read an editorial three days before in TOI and was forced to rethink over many questions knowing very well that may be I won't be able to get those answers any time. In recent times India has seen so much violence among its people. Be it the stripping of an adivasi girl in front of the whole nation or killing of people in nandigram. Everyday as I open the newspaper I dread to find an good subject to read,There are only two kinds of news i find to read .Either it is the news about the job int he It sector or some problem some where in the country. that again gives rise a big question why can not we all develop peace fully.All along in my teacher job I have told my students that progress can only come when there is peace .But looking at the present system I feel that though our foreign reserves are getting an upward momentum .But in reality we are going downwards in all departments.we are neglecting our responsibilities and character also.
In our country system needs to be changed fast and in a honest way.But looking at the things everything happen at their own pace.The judicial system.Legislative and executive system all work in their own way.after reading paper I have thought to prepare a list of questionnaire for everybody to think and advise me on that.Here they are....
Q1.The judicial system is running short of judges .Why are they not appointed ?Who is to blame?
Q2 The executives in our country get money and power on the cost of every citizen ?why no show of work compared to the perks?
Q3 If Police department is there to maintain law than why do they act like silent spectator when the need arise?
Q4 why our police force plays like a doll in the hands of corrupt politician?
Q5 Where will the greed to more and more money will end? When people related to armed forces ,travel Industry are found to e related in human trafficking for money than if gives a disgusted picture of a growing nation.
Q6 When politician blame each other calling them names like " merchants of death" than how can we feel that there will be peace among people?
Q7 Is the country going down or up?
Q8States need to be developed technologically but here also politicians,Companies play their own game.. every body forget people's cause and ..ultimately remembers their own cause only..where this mad thinking will take us?
May be some more I will add in my next blog...............

CPO(Community Policing)

Ever wondered who is staying at your next door?In good old days it was the work of house wives to keep a track of neighbours activities, but at present people are too busy to socialise with their neighbours. Here comes the idea of Community Policing. A very common concept in usa but slowly catching up in India too. The man behind this happening in Bangalore is 84 yrs young Retired Army Officer Mohammed Sharif.He and his team of dedicated workers are quitely keeping watch over some pockets of the city.The work done by them is pure voluntary.They work in a close confidence with area police station.Any suspicious matter is immediately reported to the police to start the investigation.There is another help , which this community police provides and that is to get the correct information regarding any matrimony cases.Parents of Would be grooms and brides get correct information about the other party.The only qualification one needs to have to be a part of CPO is that one should be a retiree with no criminal records.Sharif wants to see a increase of strength of 1,25,000 from 7,500 community policing in his life time. All the best Mr Sharif.....

No Human Consideration

Ever wondered why we are still behind the countries like USA or UK or even Singapore?It is because we simply lack human consideration values.What prompt me to write again in my blog after a gap of one year is an incident which my relative went through.
They were enroute to chandigarh along with their family (which included a child of 4) when on a valley road they met with an accident.Luckily no one was hurt badly but just few bruises here and there.So now what is so big deal?These things happen on and off .What really pained my heart was that the bus driver went away after hitting the car and no body stopped him.Are we so devoid of human life in India?We don't even care for the people whom we have hit.
I am sure such things happen in western countries too.Accidents are common because as a human being one is bound to make mistakes.But instead of running away culprits in those countries wait for the police to come (Running away is a severe crime there).The police also makes a fare record of everything to start the trial.Here back in India people simply run away.The drivers of buses and trucks totally lack human consideration. On second thought I feel in India we all lack human value of life if it is not ours.The hit and run cases are not only common among bus and lorry drivers but also car drivers too.
What is the reason behind such callousness? May be we don't care about others simply because we are only engrossed in ourselve.The law,judiciary and even day today politics in india lack the human values.The law has arm and teeth but it does not bite to right people.
Recent uphar Judgement has proved that the killing of chinkara is more criminal offence compared to killing 59 people.The day today politics has got ample proof that what really matters is how you gain money and power.No one is bothered to take care of people,s problem.
Talking of infrastructure one more thing is very prominent now is buildings are being constructed at a fast speed but no intrest is paid to the approaching road to them.They are getting wporse more than ever.The prominent roads of city like Bangalore are in a pathetic conditon but still life goes on.